Widow tells men to ‘just talk’
GRIEVING Mackay widow Christine Bow is encouraging men to open up about their feelings and talk to their families following the tragic death of her husband David.
She said the high-profile Mackay businessman's death just three weeks before Christmas came as a huge shock after he died by suicide.
Mrs Bow said she hoped that by telling her story and sharing her grief she could encourage other men to unburden their feelings.
"I think men can't share their load like women do.
"David had a lot of torment from things that have happened in his past that he could never deal with.
"I want other people to know that you need to open up, the most important thing is to talk.
"There were things he thought were so bad that he couldn't talk to me about because he didn't want to burden me or his mates… but people have to realise the burden someone puts on someone else is far, far less than the pain of losing them."
She said her husband never appeared depressed, but instead would quietly withdraw at certain times before going back to being his usual larrikin self.
"He knows people who have tried to (take their own life) and these particular people are beating themselves up because they didn't have any idea.
"David was there for them and counselled them and said all the right things.
Mrs Bow said it had been "a good thing" for her to see so many grown men sharing tears and hugs together in the last month.
"This at least made them think they were allowed to cry, because David wouldn't. I never saw him cry."
She said her family was coping with its huge loss and slowly coming to terms with the passing of a loving husband, father and grandfather.
"We'll do the best with what we have, and what we have is pretty good. We have each other."
On behalf of herself and her family, Mrs Bow also extended her heartfelt thanks to the many people who had provided support since David's death.
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