When he asks for your number, you happily give it to him. You walk away, can’t stop thinking about him and you wonder - what is he thinking?
The next day he doesn’t call, which is ok. You didn’t expect him to call so soon, but the next day you start to get worried. What’s the deal? Why hasn’t he called?
Before we get down to it, one of the questions women ask me all the time is: “If the guy doesn’t call is it ok if I call him?” My answer: Yes, absolutely. But…with one caveat.
When you call him DON’T communicate anything he will perceive as needy, like:
- Asking him why he didn’t call
- Asking him to ask you out
- Offering to do nice favors for him
So now that we’ve got that out of the way, here are three of the reasons a guy might not call even though you had a great connection:
Why men don't call: situation #1
Some men are too immature to be honest and straight forward with a woman. Sometimes men are just being dumb and giving themselves ego strokes by flirting with you, even though they never really planned to call. But they get your number anyway to feel good and to have it "just in case" they get some random urge or reason to call you in the future. Plus, getting a woman's number is a kind of "trophy" to show to other immature men. This has nothing to do with you. If he’s this kind of guy, you don’t want to hang out with him anyway.
Why men don’t call situation #2
They thought they were being "polite" by getting your number, even though they never felt like calling.
Keep in mind that some guys would rather end the conversation on a positive note and ask for a number even if they are unavailable or don’t feel that “click.” Think of it this way… As a woman, you’ve probably given your number to a man who asked for it, and meanwhile you kind of hoped he wouldn’t call. The guy may have been great, but just not the one for you.
Why men don't call: situation #3
They lost your number or forgot to call. It really can be that simple, although this is never the thing your anxious mind would ever come up with. The truth is, a man might really be busy, and either lost your information or he hasn’t had time to call. At least consider the possibility. If you immediately spin out and assume the worst, it doesn’t leave you in a good place emotionally.
Ok, now let me ask you...did you figure out what each of these situations has in common?
I'll give you a hint ... It has something to do with your feelings. Give up?
None of them have ANYTHING to do with your wrth as a woman, and whether or not you’re worth a man’s time and attention. When you get down to it…it's your choice to make the meaning out of the situation that you want. If a man doesn’t call you, you don’t have to give that a negative meaning
If you find yourself feeling awful just because one man didn’t pick up the phone and call you, then it’s probably time to take a step back.
Are you placing too much importance on a single interaction and turning it into a reflection of your entire love life?
One of the things I’ve found most helpful for women who start feeling this way is to stop thinking so much about the past and the future and focus instead on creating what you want in the present moment.
Remember that while a relationship is important, the more you allow it to define you, the easier it is to lose yourself.
Knowing this, continuing to do the things that keep you in a positive place is what will end up attracting the man who won’t be able to stop calling you.
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