Mum's 'house rules' spark social media backlash
A MAROOCHYDORE mum posted house rules in her daughter's bedroom to remind her "you are part of a family, we are not a motel and I am not your maid".
The mum, who asked to remain anonymous, had reached the end of her tether with her teenage daughter's behaviour.
"We love our daughter to bits, but since she got her (driver's) licence, she has got worse and worse," she said.
She posted the rules on her daughter's bedroom door and on the kitchen fridge on Tuesday night so it would be "the first thing she would see when she got home".
But when she shared her rules on a social media site, Sunny Coast Community Board she sparked a barrage of comments.
"I'm an 18 year old girl I would honestly hate my parents if they spoke to me like that," wrote one woman.
The house rules titled "rules for living in our home" included the warning if the rules weren't followed then "you can find somewhere else to live".
There was a disclaimer: "P.S. No, we are not kicking you out of home, this will be your choice for not following these simple rules."
The rules included that on the days she was not working, she "get out of bed by 10am".
And on the week nights she wasn't work, she'd be home between 5pm and 6.30pm to "help prepare dinner and have dinner with the family."
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"You will then wash up take all the rubbish out. You can then go out with friends until 10.30pm if you choose."
The daughter would also be required to "clean the bathroom once a week, completely" and keep her room clean and tidy.
"Respect is earned," the rules read.
"You are part of this family, we are not a motel and I am not your maid. You need to show respect to be given respect."
While it has only been one day since the rules were put up, the mum said it was working so far.
And she would encourage other parents to try the same tactic.
"She was up before 10am and washed the dishes and helped cook," the mum said.
"For all those people who commented it would make me lose my daughter, it worked."
The mum said the family had become exasperated as both her and her husband worked long hours and started early and their daughter would arrive home late and wake everyone out.
"We have talked to her so much helping out, to be part of a family.
"The last resort was to put it in writing and lay down some ground rules."
She said she put in on a social media forum anonymously as she wanted the advice of other parents who may be going through something similar.
"These are hard issues no one talks about. It is nice to be able to express how you feel and ask others and make sure you are on the right track."
She blamed "parents who aren't parenting" for the number of "disrespectful kids in the world today".
"When you try and something, you are made to look like a b**tch for trying to do the right thing.
"There is absolutely nothing wrong with our daughter having a social life, but she needs to respect the people she lives with."
The mum said no amount of talking had worked.
"It's been a daily battle, I'd asked her to do something, she would say 'later. I'd ask her again and she'd say 'I'll get to it".
"By the third time, I'm getting cranky and then she will say 'you only had to ask nicely".
"But I did this the first two times."