OPINION: Fifty Shades BDSM move to mainstream is disturbing

When the world’s grown-ups are so loud and proud about fantasy lives, who is explaining the boundaries?
When the world’s grown-ups are so loud and proud about fantasy lives, who is explaining the boundaries?

COMMENT BY CAROLINE HUTCHINSON: IS IT just me or does everyone wonder where we stand on porn these days?

I've never been adverse to a bodice tearer.

A feisty heiress, forced to assume the identity of a stable boy, kidnapped by a rogue prince who can only be tamed by her love.

You get the picture.

My husband has never discouraged my penchant for the penny dreadful, happy to reap the late-night rewards.

Fifty Shades of Grey was a terrible disappointment for both of us. Far from sexy, I thought Christian Grey was creepy.

The heroine, Ana, is an idiot. She allows him to beat her, degrade her, sell her car from under her and tell her where to live.

Ana says little more than "oh my!" and "holy crap!" for the whole book, biting her lip and repeating herself about inner goddesses and long fingers to the point where I want to slap her more than the deeply unpleasant Christian Grey does.

I found the whole "fantasy" a little disturbing and, honestly, not that sexy.

Obviously, I know it's fiction. It's not a BDSM handbook and there's nothing wrong with a little fantasy if that's what you're into.

What I am interested in is the mainstream acceptance.

On the radio, we're giving away tickets to the movie next week and our phone is running off the hook.

My sister was invited to a hen's night where a range of items designed for self-pleasure were on sale.

Everyone was passing them around the room, discussing the pros and cons of different designs, and someone even went to a bedroom to give her new toy a crack.

It's a brave new world.

My concern is young people. When the world's grown-ups are so loud and proud about fantasy lives, who is explaining the boundaries?

Erotic entertainment isn't normal life.

Having a red room where you hurt your partner and apologise later isn't sexy.

Girls don't have to behave or dress like porn stars. Blokes don't have to be rich or controlling to be desirable.

Fifty Shades has sold more than 100 million copies in 52 languages and now it's a movie.

I think the one about the rogue prince would be a better start for most teenagers.

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