Fifty Shades of Grey movie is no guide to romance
THE hype about the trailer for the Fifty Shades of Grey movie is making me break out in a sweat - and not the kind that the movie's PR execs are expecting.
In less than a week the trailer has been viewed more than 20 million times.
And the reaction to this teaser for a movie based on the best-selling book of the same name has been ridiculous: A news reader on my radio station announced to listeners that she "got turned on" watching it at work surrounded by colleagues!
I get that books, movies and television shows are all about the thrills and excitement that rarely exist in the real world but the hysteria from women of all ages about this must be downright confusing for young people, especially males, who are just trying to figure out what a woman wants.
And yes, I have read the book and what Christian Grey does to Anastasia Steele is not what I would describe as love or even as a healthy respect for women.
If my daughter was being treated like that I would be telling her it was abuse and encouraging her to get the hell out of there.
If my son was treating his partner like that I would be telling him the same.
Maybe I am reading too much into words on a page or scenes on a big screen and maybe I don't give young people enough credit.
Maybe I'm not!
I don't agree with the fairytale images of knights in shining armour that some girls grow up with either but the hype about this movie is taking things to another level.
Young people look to social media and movies and what everyone is talking about when they are shaping their opinions of the world and their place in it.
Is this really something we want young people to use as a guide when beginning or developing a relationship?
I guess I'm not even bagging the movie, it is the reaction from mainstream media that is bothering me the most.
Porn and girly mags and a dozen other things have been around for a long time and while I don't think any of those things depict the ideal relationship either they are not being discussed on breakfast radio or television chat shows with the same excitement and titillation.
I have young adult children who are sexually active and I was young and curious too, once upon a time, so I have no illusions about what goes on in some bedrooms (and other locations) but I am concerned about the message this movie is sending to young people.
Look at it from a guy's perspective: millions of people (mostly women) have watched the trailer and they are raving about this movie.
What's more it is being released on Valentine's Day so you know, it really must be the guide book for what women want.
This movie is being squarely targeted at young people and it is being released on a day meant to celebrate romance.
What a dilemma that will create for young men on February 14 next year: do they send roses to their girlfriend's work place or tell her to strip naked and kneel in the corner?